Reading the signs: He/She is just not that into you
After watching "He's just not that into you" last night, I realized that the movie was not that far from the truth. How many of us have fooled ourselves into believing a person is totally into us when they haven't showed the slightest bit of interest?
Allowing our emotions to take over our head with nothing to back them up is a tricky game. We need to be smarter about reading the signs. When we are set on finding someone no matter what the cost, we fabricate and very convincinly believe that the person is interested.
These are a few situations we've all been through at one point or another:
. The entire night was great in your eyes. They smiled and seemed to enjoy it. If a person is interested they will show it. Read the person's body language. Do they look you in the eye? Do they ask you questions? It's easy to see things that aren't there when we want something so bad. Don't fool yourself.
- They asked for my number. During the course of the night you get the "I'll call you" comment. Your insides are filled with butterflies. Tomorrow comes and goes with no call. It's not hard to see that they just didn't want to call. If they wanted to they would have. We will go to great lengths to excuse the person. DON'T!
- They don't share anything personal. This usually happens after sharing a few dates together. You spend time together yet they are very vague about themselves. Being interested in someone means wanting to share everything you can about yourself in order to get to know each other. The lack of sharing personal information may mean they just aren't interested in anything serious.
I'm sure there are plenty more things we miss when we are blinded by our insecurities. We need to go into the dating scene with our senses as sharp as ever in order to avoid an easily preventable heartache. Eyes wide open!
Thank you for reading :)

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